Supporting Kids Through the Transition Back to Routine
- Kathryne Cotroneo
- Jan 2
- 2 min read
As the holiday break ends, returning to school can be a tricky transition for both kids and parents. It’s normal to feel mixed emotions–fatigue, excitement, resistance. Days shift from flexibility, late mornings, and family time, back into structure, academic expectations, and busier days. What once felt like a slower rhythm may now ask for more energy, focus, and emotional regulation.
Regulation Before Expectation
Transitions in routine can affect the nervous system, and children show stress in different ways–perhaps through withdrawal, clinginess, or irritability. This isn’t “bad” behaviour, but a normal response to change. Helping your kids feel calm and prepared will make a difference. Empathy, presence, and support will help them through this transition.
Making Space for Feelings
During these last days of holiday break, keep your voice soft as you have conversations about realistic expectations. Invite your kids to share how they feel about returning to school, validating their feelings without needing to fix them. Simple phrases like “That makes sense” or “I’m here with you” can go a long way. Give yourself and your child extra time and patience, especially during the first week.
Rebuilding Routine Gently
Take your time to ease back into routines rather than expecting perfection on day one. Calm, consistent rhythms support children more than pressure.
Some simple strategies include:
Gradually adjust bedtime and wake-up time
Simple morning and after-school rituals
Encourage quiet, screen-free downtime
Ex: reading, drawing, play, movement
Build predictable check-in moments at home
Ex: snack time, walk, chat
A Reminder for Parents
If this transition feels messy, you are not doing it wrong. Transition into routine is a process that can take days or even weeks. Focus on what your child needs right now and move at a pace that works for your family. Small moments of connection matter more than perfection. Children don’t need us to take away discomfort, just to walk alongside them with support. As you support your child, we encourage you to offer yourself that same gentleness. ♥️
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